
So here we are! Final post in the Formals Quartet series. I view this not really as a topic of its own, but a culmination of everything I mentioned earlier. All the decisions you made about style and number really boil down to how much time you want to allot for formals. Of course it is entirely up to you, but there are a few things I think you should consider.
Cocktail Hour
Should you take formals during the cocktail hour? While it is customary to use the cocktail hour time for taking formals, some couples decide they want to spend all or part of the cocktail hour partying with their friends. If that describes you, then I suggest you set the cocktail hour to begin a little later than normal – giving time between the ceremony and cocktail hour for the formals. Your guests will wait - and if you put the time on the invitations beforehand, they’ll know exactly what to expect and will plan accordingly.
I actually just had a conversation with a woman about this very topic (it’s amazing the wedding conversations that I get to have as soon as people learn that I’m a wedding photographer!). Her daughter and son-in-law are adamant about attending the entire cocktail hour and only planned 20 minutes for formals between the ceremony and the start of the party. My initial thought was – that does not give their photographer much time at all to take formals. I’ve found that it is really difficult (but not impossible) to pull off a lengthy list of images in that amount of time. But I listened to the rest of the story with intrigue…she then told me that since the groom is buying his tux and of course, the bride bought her gown, they are opting to do one-on-one formals when they return from their honeymoon. After hearing that, I see they planned ahead well and really talked over their options with their photographer.

See Each Other Beforehand
Another time/timing thought to consider is if you are willing to see each other before the ceremony. I’ve done quite a few weddings where we did the formals before the ceremony began. I know what you may be thinking: “I really want to see the look on his face when he sees me for the first time in my dress coming down that aisle.” I totally appreciate that. That is exactly what I thought about my wedding day, too. But consider this for a moment, if you would. We could set up a very intimate one-on-one reveal between the two of you. He waits for you in a special place. You appear looking beautiful as ever. And you get a very personal “first look” between just the two of you. Well, and me and my second shooter and our cameras…but you get the idea. Couples who have done it have all told me they were glad they did because it gave us a lot of time to take a great number of formals with everyone. Plus they get to enjoy their cocktail hour.
Length
How much time do you need? Well, that depends on how many photographs you want. I typically suggest an hour of dedicated (uninterrupted) time for formals. Of course, all of the other factors I mentioned in earlier posts can impact how long formals will take. As a photographer (again, MY point of view), I would love to have more time than that to spend with the couple – it allows for more fun and relaxed portraits in something other than the typical poses. But if you just cannot give it, then realize your decision will impact the number of people, number of portraits, style and types of formals your photographer will be able to get for you.
I had to put this one in here – LOVE this image of Steve and Roz at the Madison Surf Club in CT. They were real troopers in holding still while we slowed down the shutter to get the little moon in the image. Special thanks to Ken Shing-Law for the idea and help with execution (and for shooting with me that day!).

Plan B
This isn’t necessarily about “time” like the title suggests, but having a Plan B, while no one actually WANTS to have to use it, is really important. This is New England, after all. And the possibility of rain (or snow – YIKES!) is a real possibility. I can always help devise a plan B that day, if we need one, but it’s really better for you if you come up with one beforehand.
This is a good example of a quick plan B we put together on a very cold November day – put the jackets on the ladies!

I sincerely hope this series on formals helps you make the decisions for your wedding day easier so you get what you want.